Child Custody Lawyers Brisbane

What Not To Do When Trying To Get Child Custody

No one understands the stress and confusion of child custody disputes quite like the Collective Family Law Group team. We can appreciate that you love your children and want to spend as much time with them as you possibly can, but certain actions you feel are necessary in the moment may affect your child custody outcomes. As premier child custody lawyers in Brisbane, the Collective Family Law Group team are here to help you steer clear of some huge mistakes you may make in the battle for custody of your kids.


Things To Avoid Doing In A Child Custody Battle

While you may believe you’re doing everything you can to better your chances of getting shared access to your children, the following mistakes may negatively impact your child custody arrangements.

  • Don’t talk badly about the other parent to your child. While you might be feeling hurt, angry, betrayed, or any other number of emotions, you mustn’t express these feelings in front of your children. This includes emotions that may make your child feel guilty or sad, whether you express them intentionally or unintentionally.  Not only does it cause your child emotional distress, but the family court will be less favourable toward you.
  • Don’t put your own interests ahead of the child’s. Your children should be your number one priority. So regardless of how you are feeling, make sure you act in the best interests of your child.
  • Don’t withhold access to your child. Unless your child is at risk of harm, you shouldn’t try to restrict or prevent access from the other parent. You need to prove that you want to see your child maintain a healthy relationship with their other parent.
  • Don’t tell your children what to say. Children aren’t great liars, and family report writers and lawyers can tell quite easily when a child has been coached or manipulated. Let the children speak for themselves.
  • Don’t avoid communication with the other parent. You and the child’s other parent need to maintain regular contact about the child’s medical care, education, social development, and wellbeing. The court needs to see that you’re willing to facilitate a healthy relationship and parental bonding between your child and their other parent.


What Do The Courts Consider When Deciding Custody Disputes? 

Deciding which parent gets primary custody of the children isn’t an easy matter, and the court will look at several factors when deciding on child custody arrangements.

  • The first primary consideration: The benefit to the child of having a meaningful relationship with both of the child’s parents.
  • The second primary consideration: The need to protect the child from physical or psychological harm from being subjected to, or exposed to, abuse, neglect, or family violence.
  • Additional considerations: 
    • Views expressed by the child
    • The nature of the relationship of the child to the parent or other persons (including grandparents)
    • The willingness of each parent to facilitate and encourage a continuing relationship with the other parent
    • The capacity of each of the child’s parents to provide for the needs of the child
    • How a change to the circumstances of the child may affect them
    • The practical difficulties that may arise with specific custody arrangements
    • Each parent’s ability to provide for the emotional and intellectual needs of the child


What Can You Do To Present Your Best Case For Child Custody?

Collective Family Law Group has child custody lawyers in Brisbane who can help you achieve the best outcome possible for you and your family. There are several things you can do to influence the outcome of your child custody arrangement positively.

  • Make sure you stick to commitments. If you’ve agreed to spend time with your kids at a specific time on a certain date, don’t reschedule and don’t be late. The more reliable you are, the better your chances will be at getting shared custody.
  • Follow the court’s requests. Even if you personally think certain requests are unfair, make sure you follow them perfectly. It shows you’re willing to put your own interests aside and do what’s best for your children.
  • Admit to your flaws and mistakes. No one is the perfect parent, but showing that you can acknowledge your flaws and that you’re committed to improving will create a positive impression.
  • Really get to know your children. The best case you can present is that you know your kids well. Learn the more minor details of their lives such as their favourite subject at school, their friends’ names, and their hobbies as well as crucial information such as medications they need or allergies they may have. The more you know about your kids, the better your chances of getting custody.


If You Need Child Custody Lawyers In Brisbane, Choose Collective Family Law Group

At Collective Family Law Group, our practice focuses exclusively on family law matters. We’re industry experts in all matters of family law, including but not limited to matters of separation, property settlement, domestic violence, financial agreements, divorce, and child support. We strive to provide quality legal services with a resolution-focused approach to our clients’ needs, and our team offer practical legal advice and solutions in a professional, approachable manner. If you need child custody lawyers in Brisbane, contact Collective Family Law Group today.


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