Domestic violence is a shattering thing that some families go through, surviving the abuse and removing yourself or your family away from the situation is the first step toward choosing a positive path. However, it can be a long journey as sometimes it can be hard to recognize that you are in a domestically violent relationship.
The thing about domestic violence is that you, as the victim, feel as though it is your fault or you aren’t good enough and because there is so much ingrained emotional abuse over the years, it can be really hard to find peace emotionally and look to the future in a positive way. When the abuse is over and you have made arrangements for your future life, you might expect to feel happy, however, it can take more than that to feel great again.
Here at Collective Family Law Group, we have the top three tips on how you can make a positive decision and reclaim your happiness after separating from an abusive partner:
1. Understanding the cause of the violence:
Once you have separated from your partner, understanding why the abusive behavior started in the first place and understanding that it isn’t actually about you at all. Potentially, there are many reasons that cause a person to be domestically violent, but you are not one of them. Some factors, that contribute to domestic violence in Australia range from:
– Childhood experiences;
– Life shift/trauma;
– Insecure, financially, emotionally, and physically;
– Gender-related aggression; and/or
– Abuse of drugs and alcohol.
2. Look after yourself & make positive decisions focused on you:
Regain your lost confidence by looking after yourself during this healing process that you need to travel through. You won’t be able to achieve everything right away, which is expected because it is a journey where you make your lifestyle how YOU want it to be! Bring the focus back on you! Sometimes you need to make big changes after separation, but don’t be afraid – you can do this, you don’t need anyone else!
3. Seek professional help:
If you feel as though you are being restricted from moving on, speak to professionals and gain legal advice. Here at Collective Family Law, we know exactly what to do even when you don’t. If you need some advice, free of charge and obligation, book an initial consultation by clicking the link below.