Domestic violence is a shattering thing that some families go through. Surviving the abuse and removing yourself or your family from the situation is the first step toward choosing a positive path. However, it can be a long journey as sometimes it can be hard to recognize that you are in a domestically violent relationship.
The thing about domestic violence is that you, as the victim, feel it is your fault or you aren’t good enough. Because there has been so much emotional abuse over the years, finding peace emotionally and looking to the future positively can be hard. You might expect to feel happy when the abuse is over and you have made arrangements for your future life. However, it can take more than that to feel great again.
Here at Collective Family Law Group, our gold coast domestic violence lawyer have these top three tips on how you can make a positive decision and reclaim your happiness after separating from an abusive partner:
1. UNDERSTANDING THE CAUSE OF THE VIOLENCE:
Once you have separated from your partner, understand why the abusive behaviour started in the first place and understand that it isn’t actually about you at all. Potentially, many reasons cause a person to be domestically violent, but you are not one of them. Some factors that contribute to domestic violence in Australia range from:
– Childhood experiences;
– Life shift/trauma;
– Insecure, financially, emotionally, and physically;
– Gender-related aggression; and/or
– Abuse of drugs and alcohol.
2. LOOK AFTER YOURSELF & MAKE POSITIVE DECISIONS FOCUSED ON YOU:
Regain your lost confidence by looking after yourself during this healing process that you need to travel through. You won’t be able to achieve everything immediately, which is expected because it is a journey where you make your lifestyle how YOU want it to be! Bring the focus back on you! Sometimes you need to make big changes after separation, but don’t be afraid – you can do this; you don’t need anyone else!
3. SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP:
If you feel you are being restricted from moving on, speak to professionals and gain legal advice. Here at Collective Family Law, we know exactly what to do even when you don’t. If you need some advice, free of charge and obligation, book a family law consultation free here.